Fear of Commitment

Is His Fear Of A Relationship Driving You Crazy?

Does your man really have a fear of commitment or commitment phobia? Possibly! Nevertheless, before you throw your hands up in the air, pull at your hair and give up you have a few things to consider.

  • Could he have cold feet?
  • Is he in love with an ex?
  • Perhaps he has not shared something very personal and reluctant.

Is there a chance that you may be missing something that is right under your nose?

Before we move too fast and come up with a quick conclusion you should look closer at what might be the problem. Perhaps all you will have to do is work through his fears. You may even find that what you think is such a huge problem isn't such a big problem at all.

It all begins with...

Getting Past His Fears

Fear of commitment has been the strain between woman and man since the beginning of time. Even Adam had this problem with commitment.

Yet, between God’s will and Eve… Well, he didn’t have much of a choice.

Men become scared as hell when they no longer have options or left with little to choose, but this still will not give you the full story behind man's fear of commitment.

If you want to understand this tug-of-war and how to work through the situation you’ll need to look at how men see commitment. Believe me when I say we look at commitment and deal with it totally different than women.

Once you understand fear of commitment and how man views commitment in his mind you will began to understand men a lot better and how to deal with their issues.

This is the beginning and the beginning is to learn...


About Fear of Commitment

  • Even the right man may need a little nudge when it involves committing to a relationship.
  • A man who genuinely cares will fight for a commitment once he realizes you're the one.
  • Some fear commitment because they fear losing total control of who they are and what a woman plans on doing with them, seriously!

Why is it so hard for him to commit?

Do not make the mistake of assuming you know what is wrong and why he is having a problem when it comes to commitment. Find out why it is so hard for him to commit.


How can I get him to commit to this relationship?

Are you having a hard time getting him to commit? Are you in a relationship and you are ready to move to the next level but you feel like you are running into a brick wall? If so, don't worry. The problem is more common than you might think. Learn why...



Why do men pull away from a potentially good thing?

Being obsessive, too demanding, and over-baring are just a few things that may make him take off in the other direction.  Learn why men pull away and what makes them run towards the hills!


How long should I wait for him to give me a commitment?

Of course, the answer to the question is, it depends. More importantly is to know what it depends on. So, how long should you wait before walking away? Get your answer in should I wait for commitment.


Does He Have Commitment Phobia?

Chances are you will not get deeply involved with any guy who has commitment phobia. That is because, well... Guys with commitment phobia, commonly know as 'scared as hell of commitment', do not date one woman for an extended period of time.

Commitment Phobia is psychological, sometimes causing even physical reactions to someone experiencing the uneasiness and discomfort of opening up or establishing closeness as you would in a relationship.

I'd like to use the example of someone going into a small closet who is claustrophobic. Unfortunately, if you get involved with anyone who has this condition you may not notice it until a bond begins to form.

You could be in for an uphill battle. Yet, if he cares enough to let you know what he is feeling and somehow express his fears never say never. Still, if his fear of commitment is this serious he may need counseling.

The problem is who really wants to go for counseling? Nevertheless, seeking professional help may be a good next step. Keep in mind it will need to be something he wants or forget about it.

If he does not see his fear as a problem, consider your happiness and what you want. Moving on could be the best thing for you and your happiness.

You can't make him want a relationship as you want one. If things do not work out you can always come back for more dating tips. Starting over might be just what the doctor ordered.

For more on the issue check out this article about commitment phobia at Psychology Today.

Commitment Phobia is psychological, sometimes causing even physical reactions to someone experiencing the uneasiness and discomfort of opening up or establishing closeness as you would in a relationship.

You could be in for an uphill battle. Yet, if he cares enough to let you know what he is feeling and somehow express his fears never say never. Still, if his fear of commitment is this serious he may need counseling.

The problem is who really wants to go for counseling? Nevertheless, seeking professional help may be a good next step. Keep in mind it will need to be something he wants or forget about it.

If you think he and the potential relationship are worth working on check out this article about commitment phobia at Psychology Today for more help.


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